So I have had a lot of things weighing heavily on my mind lately, and I can't even begin to imagine myself in either situation. We heard over the weekend that one of the medical students at the University of Utah had a wife who passed away because she chose to take her own life. They have two young children who now will be without a mother. Such a tragedy, I can't even begin to imagine what this young mother was thinking and why she felt that her life was so terrible that she needed to end it. Another situation has to do with my older brother who has chosen to get divorced after nine years of marriage. In this situation, four little children are involved who have no control over what choices their parents have made, and yet they get to be the ones who will suffer the rest of their lives for their parents poor choices. Both of these situations just make me realize the importance of a good marriage, and I have been focusing more on being a better wife to ensure that my marriage will last a lifetime. Kevin went to work yesterday morning at 5:30 a.m. and walked in the door today around 2:00 p.m. He didn't sleep a wink last night so he quickly got something to eat, and went straight upstairs to sleep for a few hours. I couldn't help but sneak in to take a picture of him. For some reason I am obsessed with taking pictures of him while he sleeps, and I have many pictures of him throughout the years. I think the pictures help me to remember how much he sacrifices for our family. What person in his right mind dreams about working 30 hours at a time without sleep just to support his family? I know that Kevin doesn't choose to work his tail off but yet he does it day after day after day. That in itself just makes me love him. To all you ladies out there. LOVE YOUR HUSBANDS! That's the point I am really trying to reiterate here. I am not a relationship expert by any means, but I have learned a lot over the nine years that I have been married. Even if your husband doesn't even love slurpees the way you do that's okay, your marriage can still be excellent. Here are some ways to show your husband that you love him that I thought were really cute ideas.
PLAY A GAME TOGETHER Have fun doing things together such as playing board games, riding bumper boats, or playing miniature golf. Just remember, if he should get the best of you, don't tackle him unless you're laughing!
SHOW APPRECIATION When your husband works hard, or does something for you, let him know you appreciate him.
MAKE YOUR HOME HIS REFUGE Let your home be a haven were your husband can retreat from the stresses of life. Do your best to make it a pleasant environment.
LAUGH AT HIS ANTICS Don't let the little things that your husband does get on your nerves. If you think about it, some of these things may have been what attracted you to him! He just wouldn't be the same if he didn't do these things.
DON'T EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND If there is something you want your husband to know about you, tell him. Don't expect him to just know what you're thinking or what you need.
PACK HIS FAVORITE TREAT Buy his favorite candy bar or other treat, and pack it in his lunch with a love note.
PUT A SIGN IN YOUR YARD Place a sign in your yard such as, "THE WORLD'S GREATEST HUSBAND LIVES HERE." Let everyone know how special your husband is to you.
BRAG ON HIM IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS Men naturally rely on boost in their ego now and then in order to stay confident. Let him hear you tell others about the great things he says and does.
DON'T CRITICIZE HIM IN FRONT OF OTHERS If you feel that your husband needs a bit of constructive criticism, make sure it's just that - constructive. Don't offer it at all unless it's in a loving way, and in private. Being criticized in front of others lowers self esteem and causes hurt feelings.
GREET HIM AT THE DOOR Don't wait for your husband to say, "Honey, I'm home!" Watch for him, and greet him at the door with a hug and kiss.
KEEP YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE It's easy to fall into a "house wife" mode and just walk around in "cleaning clothes" with your hair twisted into a mess. That's OK while your actually cleaning, but try to be more presentable by the time your husband sees you. Bathe, put on clean clothes and a dab of perfume, and set your hair nice.
JUST SAY IT Make it a point to say the words I love you every single day, and mean it.
I am grateful to have such a wonderful husband, and I can't imagine my life without Kevin!!!!
7 comments:
Wow, Tricia! That was really cool. Maybe I'll have you do the marriage fireside in a few weeks. I actually may ask them to have you teach a lesson in RS. That was very wise counsel. Now--I've got to work on the guys...
Tricia-you are soo amazing. I am going to try and be a better wife too!
That is so sad, both of those things are. How those kids won't have a mommy and divorce hurts children SO much. I never really understood how much until it happened to me and now my heart hurts every time I hear it happen to more kids. I think if more parents REALLY knew what it did to their kids, they would try harder to work it out. And I agree with you, I know how much more a good marriage is. My husband has loved me through thick and thin- literally and I have always felt attractive, appreciated and loved. And you are right, I do need to let him know more. I really like packing the lunch with a treat idea, I think I will use that one. ;) Thanks!
cUtie! Wow thats good..now all we gotta do is find me a husband! :) ha ha ha JUST KIDDING! I love you Trish your the best sister I've ever had! Muah Ya!
you are so incredibly insightful. I am so glad you and Kevin have such a wonderful, strong relationship, that your girls have such good examples, and that you have strengthened your love for each other through all you have gone through together! I loved your words of wisdom...they are gems and while it is sad to have examples such as those you mentioned that make you sad or wonder why, it is good to remember what we have right in front of us and to be forever grateful!
You two are so lucky to have each other.
...I sure am glad that my hubs loves slurpee's as much as me though ;)
We definetly need to take a road trip to the nearest 7-11 in the middle of Oklahama.
What a great reminder! I had to smile at some of the suggestions and I think I'll have to act on a bunch of them. I am so blessed and don't want to take it for granted.
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